LovingU Relationship Test

1. Read each question and place a P next to the issues that you have experienced in the past & a C next to the issues that you are currently experiencing. P/C if it is both past & current. Use N/A for not applicable. Place a P/C for current issues that have also occurred in your past.
2. Tally up the number of P’s, C's, P/C's, and N/A marks and enter the number on the test: (P’s ___ C’s ____ and P/C’s____ N/A____)

1. ____ Your current or past relationship feels/felt like a roller coaster ride.
2. ____ You broke up with someone and are still suffering.
3. ____ Someone broke up with you and you are suffering.
4. ____ Your partner just told you that he/she is no longer in love with you.
5. ____ You think or know that your partner is cheating on you.
6. ____ You are thinking about cheating on your partner because you don’t think you will ever get what you want from your relationship.
7. ____ You haven’t had sex in ages.
8. ____ You are single and haven’t been actively dating for months or years.
9. ____ You are newly single.
10. ____ You are still angry at the opposite sex.
11. ____ You think living alone is better than having a partner.
12. ____ You think that women/men only want one thing.
13. ____ You are shy about approaching and initiating conversation.
14. ____ You can’t stand the thought of living alone.
15. ____Your relationship is causing you a lot of drama and trauma.
16. ____ You or your partner has no interest in having sex / making love.
17. ____You are having a relationship with someone who is married and they are not married to you.
18. ____You are tired of meeting people who do not meet your needs.
19. ____You keep on meeting the wrong kind of guys or girls.
20. ____You can’t seem to get beyond the 3rd date.
21. ____You are in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable.
22. ____You have a challenging time expressing your emotions.
23. ____You are very nervous asking someone out.
24. ____You are uncomfortable flirting.
25. ____You are going through a divorce or separation right now.
26. ____You are going through a custody battle.
27. ____You can’t forget your ex.
28. ____Your heart feels like it’s being put through a meat grinder.
29. ____The frequency of fights and conflict is increasing.
30. ____You can’t seem to resolve issues in the relationship and they get pushed under the carpet.
31. ____There is physical violence in the relationship.
32. ____You find it easier to tell white lies or omit details about things that might be potentially upsetting to your partner than telling the whole truth.
33. ____ The closer you want to get to your partner the more they push you away.
34. ____ The more you push your partner away the more he/she wants you.
35. ____You can’t commit.
36. ____You choose partners that can’t commit to you.
37. ____You keep on finding people who need or want your help and then they leave you.
38. ____You become the mommy or the daddy in the relationship.
39. ____You find people who try to dominate and control you.
40. ____You find relationships with people who are abusive.
41. ____You find relationships with people who are drug or alcohol abusers.
42. ____You don’t seem to ever get what you really want in love and life.
43. ____You are in a relationship for over 5 years and you or your partner has not proposed.
44. ____You don’t feel attractive.
45. ____You find yourself comparing dates to past relationships.
46. ____You partner is deceased and you are not completely healed.
47. ____You feel burned out about love.
48. ____You are frequently disappointed in your partner.
49. ____Your partners refuse to grow and change.
50. ____You’ve tried dating services and/or personal ads and they don’t seem to work.
51. ____You’ve done something to upset your partner and you want to make it better.
52. ____You want to get your partner back in your life.
53. ____You find yourself settling for less than what you deserve.
54. ____You would rather have a better than nothing relationship than risk having a true soulmate.
55. ____You regularly sabotage yourself in relationships.
56. ____You always seem to become the “teacher” in your relationships.
57. ____You’ve read all kinds of self-help books and taken seminars and are still not getting the results that you want.
58. ____You want to end a relationship but don’t know how or if it’s the right action to take.
59. ____You think you intimidate men or women.
60. ____ You can’t forgive your partner for something s/he did.
61. ____You find yourself saying things like “The good ones are already taken.”
62. ____You have a tendency to be a workaholic.
63. ____You have a difficult time asking for what you want.
64. ____You are too much of a giver.
65. ____You are a taker in a relationship.
66. ____You procrastinate too much.
67. ____You have never been in love.
68. ____You have never had a “real” relationship.
69. ____You fall in love too easily.
70. ____ You have never been able to tell someone “I love you.”
71. ____You have never been sent flowers.
72. ____You didn’t have anyone to celebrate your birthday or Valentines Day with.
73. ____There is emotional abuse in the relationship.
74. ____You had a traumatic childhood.
75. ____ One of your parents was critical of you and difficult to please.
76. ____One of your parents was very dominating and controlling.
77. ____You attract sexually dysfunctional people for relationships.
78. ____The wrong kind of people seem to want to be in relationship with you.
79. ____You are attracted to “bad” boys or girls.
80. ____You are always attracted to someone who is much older than you.
81. ____You are only attracted to people who are much younger than you.
82. ____You fear becoming a parent because you are concerned that certain parental traits will surface in you, that you experienced with your parents.
83. ____Your biological clock is ticking and you are concerned about becoming a parent before it’s too late.
84. ____You open up very slowly with others.
85. ____Trust is a very big issue with you and relationships.
86. ____It’s been longer than 6 months since you have been on a date.
87. ____ Your partner has lied to you.
88. ____ Children are affecting your relationship.
89. ____ Money issues are affecting your relationship.
90. ____Your partner is having an affair with someone of the same sex.
91. ____ You know you have unexpressed anger that needs to be released.
92. ____ You want the best relationship possible.